>What I have is a address to contact relationship where I have a form that show one record at a time (too much data for a grid). If I create a standard view from 2 tables (flat file) and append, both tables are appended.
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>If I create separate views I can't keep them in sync. Currently I've created my own updatable cursors and set a relationship between the parent and child.

I mean that you create parameterized view just from child table, and modifying it you affect child table only. Also, I wonder what means too much data for grid. If you have many child records associated with particular parent record then you can always add search functionality to your grid.