Tom,
As you stated it is all a matter of definition. :) Sure is!
A nation can be imperialist without being an empire. A representative modern definition of "imperialism" is:
'The practice of one country extending its control over the territory, political system, or economic life of another country. Political opposition to this foreign domination is called "anti-imperialism" '
IMHO there have been examples of both for well over a century.
He may be out of fashion, but in 1916 Lenin described Imperialism as the final stage of Capitalism, characterized by export of capital rather than goods, establishment of a "rentier" strata of society that is involved in no industry but derives super profits by "clipping coupons", increasing monopoly power and super-profits systematically extracted from less developed countries.
Are we there yet? ;-)
http://www.marxists.org/archive/lenin/works/1916/imp-hsc/
"... They ne'er cared for us
yet: suffer us to famish, and their store-houses
crammed with grain; make edicts for usury, to
support usurers; repeal daily any wholesome act
established against the rich, and provide more
piercing statutes daily, to chain up and restrain
the poor. If the wars eat us not up, they will; and
there's all the love they bear us."
-- Shakespeare: Coriolanus, Act 1, scene 1