>>>>>If you messed things up completely, is there a way to go back on track in relationships?
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>>>>>If yes, what steps would you take to deserve forgiveness?
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>>>>Depends. Grovelling and begging may work. Maybe flowers and jewelry. Or maybe promising to do the dishes and take the garbage out for the next year. :)
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>>>Well, begging didn't work, but there is not that much time elapsed, because the latest incident happened just yesterday. And yes, I'm at fault, though I sort of was provoked. And no, it's not a marriage relationship we're talking about. It's in a work place...
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>>Oho! And everyone assumed it was a romantic relationship. Calling Dr. Freud, indeed.
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>>Given that it is a work relationship, why don't you tell us more about what happened and who it was with? Then maybe the advice will be more pertinent. FWIW I think just about any relationship can be repaired -- with the major caveat that both parties have to want it to be repaired.
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>I'm sending this as a UT private message.
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I just read it and replied to you. I want to say something publicly that won't reveal any confidences but I think those who have jumped in should hear. IMO the fault was entirely your colleague's. Somehow from your public posts I got the impression you had done something pretty awful. You didn't. You have a petty and insecure colleague, that's all. Not that it wouldn't be better for it to be patched up, because you do have to work with this bozo on a day to day basis, but if there is any apologizing to be done he is the one who should be doing it.