>But in the final analysis, it really is a dictatorship. You make the decisions. Ok, maybe you consider her feelings and maybe even those of your children, but then you make the decision ultimately, according to your own choices regardless of those feelings. If they agree then that's nice, but if they don't, it doesn't really matter. At the point of your decision, their job is merely to acquiesce.

Again - I guess I'm not being clear - If the wife does not agree, it's my job to understand her and try to resolve that disagreement. I would be foolish to force my wife to do something she did not want to do - that' no way to show love and preference to her.