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>>3) Do you think my husband was wrong in allowing (I have trouble typing that with a straight face) me to work all these years, even after we had children?
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>From what I know of you, Tamar, I could hardly keep a straight face from the start of the sentence either :-)
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Yeah, I come from a family of extremely strong-willed women. (My mother and her sisters had to be strong to survive their childhood.) My husband would never think in terms of allowing or not allowing me to do something. The most important thing we've learned in marriage is to say "I feel strongly about this" or "I don't really care. Do what you want," as is appropriate to the situation.

Tamar