>So it is ok not to live with a donkey, and to not follow an eye for eye, and to not have slaves, but women should still be subjugated? <snip>

Bible talks about submission not subjugated.. Submission means under the mission.. Mission to follow God's principle..

So on God's principle, He says there isn't slaves on the kingdom..

IOW, let me give you an example for this point view.. In the company, I can be your subordinate and you my boss.. On this point of view you are superior than me (on company)

on that same sample.. we're merried.. and, have two childrens.. (keep following me)

So.. There.. at our hipotety home.. superiority it is a phrase that doesn't exist.. All creature are equal at God's view.. The only diference is for those who accept him as a Father..

My mission is to server God.. Your submission is to help on this mission.. Not to help me on my needs.. But, to server God.. (Home, children, education, etc.. is the scenary).

Gifts.. it is what we use.. not competence..

><snip> It is ok to selectively adhere to the Bible's teachings and laws?

On the nature, maybe we can see cleary all the basic instinct that I'm try to mention here.