>Having a container holding knowledge about its contained objects is not the problem as having sibling objects knowing about each other.
Yes, I understand what you're saying and I agree.

>...you can open the view in the container's init and add a method to the container to set up the grid. Once the Init opens the view you call the other method to set up the grid.
Are you suggesting adding the grid to the container using procedural code rather than using the visual designer?