>>Not easy for a democracy to succeed with an electorate of 2. Unless you're going to give the toddler a vote as well? ;-)
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>Gradually, as it grows, over more and more matters. The earlier they understand the responsibility of decision making, the smarter they do it later.
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>I didn't say it's easy, only that it's better, and that it's a solution. Works for us.

Worked for us, too. My kids were often presented with "Do you want to do a or b?" When they answered "c," they heard "that's not one of your choices. a or b?" <g>

But seriously, we involved our kids in family decision-making at various levels throughout their childhood, from what we should have for dinner to where we should go on vacation to where our charity dollars should go. We seem to have raised two pretty responsible, thoughtful young men.

Tamar