>>>>>Nothing wrong? Let's just say we are not on the same page, and move on to the next one.
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>>>>What exactly did they do that was wrong again? The drinking? Hiring a stripper? Hiring a black stripper?
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>>>Let's see. They were athletes in season having a keg party. While these guys may or may not have been underage (I don't know how old they were then), it seems pretty likely that some of the people at the party were underage.
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>>>Beyond that, yeah, I think hiring strippers is wrong. Not illegal, but morally wrong.
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>>>Tamar
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>>Do you think they deserved all the crap that they got about it?
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>No, absolutely not. But I do hope that all of the kids involved (those who were charged and those who were just there) will learn a lesson about the consequences of the choices you make.
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>We've worked hard to teach our kids to make good choices. I'd like to think that if either of my boys had walked into that party, he would have walked right out.
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>Tamar

Here's an analogy.......A young man is in a hotel waiting for the elevator. It arrives and the only occupant is female. He gets on and when they arrive at the lobby she is screaming that he fondled her and tried to stop the elevator and rape her.

Should he have anticipated the consequences of this action???? Should the Duke athelets have been able to anticipate a fabricated rape accusation as a reasonable consequence of attending this party????

Had they been caught by their coach and suspended for breaking training regulations that would have taught the consequences lesson. Had a neighbor complained and the police busted them for underage drinking that would taught them about consequences.

Had one of your kids walked out of the party it would have been because you taught him that kind of party is morally wrong. As was said elsewhere by others, I disagree with that but certainly respect the opinion. Had he left because he thought a rape charge was a reasonable possibility then he should probably become a complete hermit because there is a possibility (however remote) of something similiar whenever there is human interaction. Any date might lead to a date rape charge. Does that mean he should never date?????