>They will have sex without the condoms too. Even if you give them to them. I just don't like the idea of passing them out because it sends the wrong signals to the kids. If you didn't condone their sexual activity, why would you give them condoms? (the kids will be thinking).

Actually, John, is this so different from telling your kids that you don't want them involved with alcohol or drugs, but that they can call you any time to be picked up? Sure, some kids will interpret that as permission to get wasted, but most will make the distinction.

BTW, all, for a really good explanation of what underlies the two approaches to sex education, check out this book:

http://www.amazon.com/When-Goes-School-Sex-Education-Since/dp/0393329968/ref=sr_1_2/002-7771660-9736847?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1176743843&sr=1-2

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