>>>Somehow, plenty of us are managing to raise kids without hitting them. I see no place for beating kids in the discipline spectrum.
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>>>That said, I have no objects to wrapping up a little kid in an adult's arms to calm them down. Did it many times, but I didn't hit my kids.
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>>>AFAIC, hitting/beating/paddling a kid is an admission that you don't know how to discipline them.
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>>>Tamar
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>>If your strategy worked all the time, I'd be for it. However, out here in the real world that's not the case. Many people mistake kindness for weakness. Spanking is just another form of behavior modification. It's the option you use afte all the others have failed. If that option doesn't work, then you move to the next level, which could include removal from the system, or inclusion into another system. Your "touchy-feely", give me a big hug strategy won't work on a gangsta who comes from the mean streets.
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>Most people's fears now are of the hoody-wearing feral kids hangingh around street corners. Many of them barrack-room lawyers and a rsult of the failed laisee-faire school regime. The leader of the opposition (Tory Party) over here was widely ridiculed last year when he encouraged people to "hug a hoody" - show love and compassion rather than fear and loathing.


So how many people have died from hugging them so far?