>>Let me guess, the shouting and banging all ocurred during his teenage years? :o) I think the entire teenage years are meant to slowly start parents in the separation process so they don't have too much anxiety when their child goes off to college. :o)
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>Actually, no. Some of it happened then, but our toughest period with Solomon was middle-schoolish. He was having a very hard time in school (socially, not academically) and so we saw lots of issues at home.
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>The toughest thing with him high-school-wise was the idiocy that school started at 7:30 AM, so he had to be up obscenely early. He's never been a morning person, and that just made things worse. If he had had the option of going to school at, say, 9:30 instead of 7:30, his teenage years would have been far less turbulent (and probably even more productive than they were).

True - most teenagers aren't aware that there IS a 7:30 am! :-) I'm hacked off now cos my elder is about to start 2ndary school. There they start at 8:20, and she has to get across the city for that, whereas I'm used to their starting at 8:55 - just a short walk away from my house, where my youger still is. And it's I who has to get her on her way - so I've got to be up earlier now!

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>All that said, the summer before he went off to college, he did drive me nuts. And I did assume it was normal separation.
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>Tamar