>>>>That's the problem with her posts sometimes - there's nothing offensive, but then the choice of words may still get the recipient in a very bad mood. Something quite hard to catch sometimes, and equally hard to imagine a bad intent behind it, but still easy to imagine the reader being rather annoyed with it.
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>>>This may well be true, and it may also apply to my own texts, but how about the posts referred to here? Who can explain to me what words were in these posts that are anything but 'taking the high road'??
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>>Because that (as my old classmaster would say, "not going the path of least resistance"), would require taking a step away from the keyboard, thinking calmly about why the response was what it was, rethinking one's own words etc - whereas Naomi seems to have completely unaware of what reaction her choice of words may have caused, so she'd go explaining on and on, in the same manner... I've seen it happen a few times, and discussed it with her privately. Not sure it helped much, Russian is only my third language, and needs a lot of wd-40, so maybe it was too little, too late.
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>Your classmaster may have known my grandmother who used to say - before speaking, first turn around your tongue seven times

We also have an expressiojn "Engage your brain before opening your mouth"

My mouth and unfortunate choice of words has got me into hot water many a time, unintentionally hurting/insulting/upsetting (add any negative-effect verb you like)