>Cathy - in general, I agree with your choice. The one piece you might want to consider is somehow helping them to know that if they don't have the addiction gene, there is a middle ground between drinking too much and not drinking at all. That is, that having a beer or two at a ballgame or a glass of wine with dinner now and then is acceptable, if you can do that and then stop.

Tamar, so if I have a 6-10 beers some night at a bar with my buddies, is that unacceptable?