>>>>>>Again, I don't expect you or others to understand that given the historical data you have - just hope you can understand not every Christian (or religious group) treats women with disdain.
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>>>>>Howard, I accept that you mean what you say, but speaking as a woman, I'd rather be an equal partner than a follower on a pedestal.
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>>>>>Your philosophy implies that in every family, the husband is the superior decision-maker. Since that doesn't match my experience, I question the philosophy.
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>>>>>Tamar
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>>>>Your inferring that I am saying the husband is the "superior" decision maker. I am not saying that - just that the Bible (in my opinion) requires the men to lead. You and I both know that men make poor decisions at times - that's not the issue. It's an issue of obedience to scripture.
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>>>Well, I have a problem with any philosophy that says that the man gets to make the choices simply because he has a penis, even if he's not the better decision maker. It's a bad way to live, in my view.
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>>>In my 30-year marriage, we've learned to let each of us take the lead in the areas where we excel or have interest, and to negotiate when we feel differently about something. We haven't found any reason in our partnership to have a leader and a follower.
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>>>Tamar
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>>If that works for you then press on. We've just chosen a different way to manage our home.
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>From this week's NewsWeek:
>Universally, men tend to score higher on certain specialized skills, such as spatial awareness. In the real world, that means they might be better at reading maps or navigating. Women score higher in terms of language development and emotional intelligence. But most experts agree there is no real, important overall difference when it comes to gender and intelligence.


That would come as a surprise to a lot of women I know <g>.