>>>>>>>You may well be depressed for a while. This is a major life event and it is going to be hard to deal with. Just try to hang in there as well as you can and trust in family and friends. That's what she would want for you, isn't it? I know before my dad's second wife, the love of his life, died of lung cancer she told him she didn't want him spending the rest of his life moping over her.
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>>>>>>Thanks for the advise.
>>>>>Greg,
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>>>>>It might help to take a look at the grieving process. This is a link to some information on it - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model
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>>>>>I studied this in crisis intervention training and found it to be a valid model. We all go through it when we grieve. Somehow, it seems to help to know what to expect.
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>>>>>Here's the core concept:
>>>>>Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
>>>>>Anger: "Why me? It's not fair."
>>>>>Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my children graduate."
>>>>>Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
>>>>>Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
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>>>>>I hope this can help some.
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>>>>Thanks for information.
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>>>>Unfortunately, this not the first time I have seen a loved one die. The step you present have been apart of life for a very long time. What I am feeling now can best be described as "Numbness", a combination of all the step in one. But see them written makes me sort them out in myself. Thanks.
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>>>Yeah, we all experience grief. You don't move cleanly from one stage to another either. Sometimes you regress to a previous stage, then back and ultimately, you deal with it. I've found it helps me to look at those who are more unfortunate than me, which includes about 95% of the world. Counting our blessings is a good way to put things in perspective. Another concept, which doesn't make sense (at first) is to help someone else, while you are undergoing your own dilemma. You know, the old saying about complaining of having no shoes and meeting a man with no feet.
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>>Wise thoughts.
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>>I bless one thing. The years of pain Angela endured are now over.
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>Please also take solace in the fact that you were a comfort to her when probably not much else was.

I heard this from her nearly daily.