>>>Please, do yourself a favor - as many people have told you - quit worrying about what others think of you.
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>>What really amazes me here on the UT is the tremendous amount of people who tell others to quit worrying about what others think of you. Is this a part of the Wonderful American Culture? Or is it typical for, so-called rational, programmers? Is that the lesson Dr. Phil and Oprah Winfrey have taught you all?
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>>I criticize that attitude. It shows a serious lack of empathy and solidarity.
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>I criticise being so weak as to constantly demand others pay attention to you. Grow up. If you worry about what others think, then show them how strong you are rather than how weak.

my feelings exactly