>>Please, do yourself a favor - as many people have told you - quit worrying about what others think of you.
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>What really amazes me here on the UT is the tremendous amount of people who tell others to quit worrying about what others think of you. Is this a part of the Wonderful American Culture? Or is it typical for, so-called rational, programmers? Is that the lesson Dr. Phil and Oprah Winfrey have taught you all?
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>I criticize that attitude. It shows a serious lack of empathy and solidarity.

Peter, if somebody doesn't like you, then all the whining and complaining in the world isn't going to change that. In fact, all it usually does is to make the other person feel they made the right decision in the first place.

It is far better to simply get on with your life and accept the fact that not everybody in the world is going to like you. Naomi has to get over it, or it will simply become the central theme in her life.

It's not about empathy and solidarity. It's about pragmatism and moving on.