I was struggling with this too and found a very simple fix, which seems to work just fine. The ACTIVATE SCREEN is the answer. Hope this helps. Here's my code:

IF MCOL() < 0 OR MROW() < 0	&& returns -1 if called from toolbar while a form has focus
	ACTIVATE SCREEN		&& so can get accurate row/col
ENDIF

DEFINE popup xPopup SHORTCUT RELATIVE FROM  MROW(), MCOL()	&& create context menu

>I'd always prefer to do something natively in VFP, if possible. I've avoided ActiveX controls partly because of the hassles of installation and registration, but I guess I'll give those controls a look, assuming I install SP2 (which may be required for those controls, but I might have seen someone here say it's not, so I just don't really know, yet).
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