>Would it be possible to have a check box next to the messages in our mailbox instead of clear, and have the message not even display that it has been marked for deletion. This will save on overhead from not having to send the message to me and I have to go back to delete another. I think it is a waste of resources repainting the screen for that little message. Once I leave my mailbox they will not show up next time I open it.

I am not sure I understand excatly what you just wrote. The mailbox is used to show you replies from other members to your messages. It should not be used as a folder. The 3rd icon on the right is the one that should be used for folders and organizing specific messages you want to save for further references.