The key is, when you love someone more than yourself, you are not only willing, but happy to compromise. Unlikely to happen to narcisists though... (oops I just read that and it came out all wrong. I'm certainly NOT implying you are one) :o)

>>>Speaking only for myself, I'd never sign a prenup whether if favoured me or not. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned, but I just can't see myself saying to a woman, "I love you. I want to spend my life with you. Please sign this because I'm not sure I really trust you." And anyone who implied the same to me would see me walking away - quick.
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>>What's the name for such marriages here, marriages of convenience? In my neck of the... meadows, they are called "marriages out of calculation".
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>Marriages of convenience sounds about right, but marriages of convenience probably wouldn't last too long - thus the reason for the prenup. Some people simply should not get married. That includes people who have no trust in anyone but themselves, people like me who are extremely selfish and don't want to have to make compromises in how they live their lives day to day. I don't mind giving away stuff, but I've never wanted to have to give away any of my need to be completely on my own recognisance.
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>Think Tom Waits' Better off without a wife
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>So this is kind of a little anthem here...
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>All my friends are married
>every Tom and Dick and Harry
>you must be strong
>if you to go it alone
>Here's to the bachelors
>and the bowery bums
>and those who feel that they're the ones
>that are better off without a wife
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>chorus:
>I like to sleep until the crack of noon
>Midnight howlin' at the moon
>goin' out when I wanto, comin' home when I please
>I don't have to ask permission
>If I wanna go out fishin'
>never have to ask for the keys
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>I never been no Valentino
>but I had a girl who lived in Reno
>She left me for a trumpet player
>But it did'nt get me down
>He was wanted for assault
>though he said it weren't his fault
>You know the coppers rode him right out of town
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>chorus
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>They say I'm kinda selfish about my privacy
>now as long as I can be with me
>we get along so well I can't even believe it
>I love to chew the fat with folks
>I've been listening to all your dirty jokes
>I'm so thankful for these friends
>I do receive
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>chorus
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>Hey I've got this girl I know, man
>She's been married several times
>and I don't wanna end up like her
>I mean, she's been married so many times
>she's got ricemarks all over her face
>yeah, you know the kind...
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