>I don't think I'm a narcisist, but then I'd probably be the last to know. It's not that I love myself, it's my freedom I love.
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>I want to be able to come home in the evening and have my time to myself to do whatever. If I want to sit at the computer for an entire day, I don't want somebody tellling me I should be doing something else. If I want to go to a ballgame, I don't want somebody telling me I'm supposed to have dinner with relatives.

But with a partner you love, you might find that what you want to do changes. In a good marriage, you give and take and accommodate and it's worth it because it makes you both happy.

As for relatives, we all have 'em. <s>

Tamar