I really don't get too excited one way or another about people here or their behavior. The people I know personally are friends - or not - and the others I know only through their posts, so I realize that is a pretty small data set on which to be certain I know what they are all about.

I have definite opinions (surprise surprise) about people here and their behavior, it just isn't a big part of my life and I am quite sure a lot of those opinions may be wrong.

If someone chooses not to read my posts or I choose not to read theirs - it really doesn't matter. I have no need to condemn people I can simply ignore unless it amuses me to do so.

Freedom of speech also means the freedom of others not to listen. And if they do listen, they have a right to laugh or just quietly think the speaker is an idiot or to shout back if they think it is productive or to just walk away and avoid the speaker in the future.

But my point still is that for one's personal happiness it is better if one doesn't invest too much emotion or energy in things that one cannot control. It is the very definition of stress.




>>>Charles,
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>>>I understand it but at the same time I don't understand another thing.
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>>>I someone asks me to speak with him/her and don't ignore, I would communicate with that person and I would not make the other person beg for my attention.
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>>And that is usually the way I behave as well. But if I make repeated attempts to contact someone and I know they are ignoring me I decide it is an example of how different human beings can be and I focus my attention on people who enjoy my company.
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>... I decide it is an example of how different human beings can be ...
>Well, I feel sure that's not what you really think in your head at such a moment. These are just the non-offensive words you use here. In your head you'd use words for that person that are blocked here. And right you are!
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>My advice to Naomi is to do the same thing. That is, to decide to think of such a person as an @#$%.
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>>We can never control other people's decisions or behavior. All that is under our control is how we choose to deal with that.
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>Well, perhaps we can't control them, but we can condemn such people. As I did with Jay Johengen, whom I consider someone who expresses certain anti-social behavior. If he has a problem with that, for example if he now feels offended or insulted, my defense will be that it is anti-social to not communicate with another members here, that way causing stress in this community. Also he oftentimes makes derogative jokes about others here. In my head he's a real @#$%.