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Michel please fix the twit list
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10/12/2008 20:26:52
 
 
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>>Well, perhaps we can't control them, but we can condemn such people. As I did with Jay Johengen, whom I consider someone who expresses certain anti-social behavior. If he has a problem with that, for example if he now feels offended or insulted, my defense will be that it is anti-social to not communicate with another members here, that way causing stress in this community. Also he oftentimes makes derogative jokes about others here. In my head he's a real @#$%.
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>Except that you're missing the point. Not communicating does NOT cause stress in the community. Somebody somewhere will be almost always be offended by something somebody else does or says. Nobody else seems stressed by the use or existence of the twit filter. Somehow, you and Naomi have got it into your heads that what a hundred other people think simply doesn't measure up to what the two of you think - to the point where we can never seem able to escape this pointless harangue unless we twit you. I have no intention of twitting you or anyone else, but that's my personal choice. It certainly doesn't mean I'm not sick and tired of hearing about this from the only two people who seem to have a problem with it.

Your arguments are not sound. For example, you cannot prove that the balance is 2:100. Another example is that you also cannot prove that Naomi and I are the only two who have a problem with the twit filter. But let me focus on your most important invalid argument, that not communicating does not cause stress.

Not communicating does not always, in any case, cause stress, but it certainly can! It does not (that is, no longer) cause stress if both parties have come to an agreement it is better to not communicate (any longer). But if one of both parties wants to talk things over and the other party doesn't want to listen and treats the opponent as air, then this is very, very frustrating for the one who wants to talk. Every shrink and social worker can confirm this.

So-called neutral non-involved others who are nevertheless related to both parties will experience stress too when they see this happen, but they can rely on several tactics to get rid of their personal stress. One tactic is to blame the victim, to think low of that person and even derogate this person, in this case the twitted person. This actually makes the victim even more a victim.
Groet,
Peter de Valença

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