>>Some here urge Naomi to blame herself. That's their way of supporting her, but the message is not lowering her stress at all. On the contrary, it is increasing her stress. Instead, they should show empathy and tell her that this twitter is a b#%$^d indeed. Choose her side, show her that she's not the only one who thinks it was unjust. That's the kind of support she hopes to get. Pity for her is that this forum is loaded with quite harsh beta people. Naomi is far better off in a forum that's loaded with supportive alpha people. Actually, she'd be positively surprised if she'd visit a social worker or shrink. This alpha person will immediately show the kind of social and emotional support she longs for.
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>Nobody is blaming Naomi for the situation. What we are blaming her for is her inability to let it go and get on with her life and for continuously bringing it up ad nauseum until nobody wants to hear about it any more. Who deserves blame for that? The other person who apparently has got on with his life?
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>We also don't know (at least I don't) who this person is. Why should I tell her the twitter is a b#%$^d indeed when I have no idea if he is or he isn't.

Well, that's the kind of support we give to friends, don't we? Although I admit that it's more custom between women, but men do it also. Rationally we know that we've heard only one side of a story, but that doesn't prevent us from saying all kinds of words that are immediately accepted by this stressed friend as social support. "Yeah, life sucks. Cheers!"

>We don't even know what precipitated the issue in the first place. You want us to take her side and call it unjust without any facts. Interesting concept, but ...

>>Can we close this conversation? :)
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>Why? Aren't you having fun? ;)

All the time. :)