But I can see that you believe in total control, and hence total responsibility, and that's fine. Whatever works for each person is fine by me.

Not necessarily total control, but, yes - total responsibility. I can even take the concept of personal responsibility to extremes {g}. For example, I believe that if I walk down the street and a flower pot falls out of a window on to my head, ultimately I am responsible for it because I was the one who made the decision to go for a walk at that particular time and on that particular route. Had I made different decisions, I would not have been there for the flower pot to fall on {s}.