>I'm trimming to get to what I considered the essential issue here.
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>(JB) >>>>>What if I told you one of my sons is gay, would that change your opinion of me and my acceptance of the behavior? It won't happen in my home, but he is free to do as he pleases (as long as he doesn't push his beliefs, actions, or demand for rights on me). I love him the same regardless of his proclivities.
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>(TH) >There are plenty of parents who don't allow their kids and boyfriends or girlfriends to cohabitate in their homes. What they do in their own homes is up to them. Plenty of parents won't allow it unless they are married. Another good reason to support gay marriage :o) I must have missed something. Where did John say his son had chosen a life partner and wanted to bring him/her home to stay with them? I understood him to say his boys spent the summer with him (and I understood not adult sons, but I may be wrong), not that his son and his life partner (male or female) had come to stay with him during the summer. Even so. It is up to John to decide what is permissable in his home. You may not agree with him, but it's his home. It's no diffferent than if his teenage son had wanted his girlfriend to spend the night or live with him under John's roof. Are they adults? I missed that. Even if they are, it's still John's house and John's rules. He may have to pay the price for his decisions, but it's still up to him.
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>Elsewhere in the thread, he made it clear that his kids are adults. I totally agree with you that when talking about teenaged kids, his stance is perfectly reasonable. But at some point, they become adults.
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>I also acknowledge that there are some families where even adult, unmarried children wouldn't be allowed to share a room. (Mine isn't one of those. I think my 26-year-old is old enough to make those choices for himself.) But if that's the case for John, then he will ultimately be treating his gay son differently than his other children.
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>Tamar

If his rules don't apply to all of his children, then I agree with you. Whether they are heterosexual or not, the conditions should be the same. I'm in your camp as far as relationships go. I want my child to be happy more than anything. Life is hard enough as it is.