I believe there are times when you have to play hardball.


>I may act like a jerk on here sometimes, but I like to think I conduct my personal affairs with integrity and I am a decent person.
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>Without getting into too many details, there's something going on in my life right now where a loved one is dealing with somebody with absolutely no integrity, no morals, no sense of right and wrong, no personal responsibility. He is WINNING because of this. And this isn't something where "hang in there and he'll get his"... this is something that cannot be lost.
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>How is it possible to deal with this while still maintaining your integrity? I keep telling this loved one to stay on the moral high ground and to not stoop to his level, but to stick to his/her guns and do not concede. But this isn't a conflict that can be lost, and playing nice just doesn't seem to be working. The final outcome will happen in a few weeks. I have been living the past few days terrified that taking the high road wasn't enough. What good is being a good person if it puts you in situations where you are miserable? No, knowing that you did the right thing isn't enough. There's too much at stake to lose.
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>I'm usually pretty black and white about crime and punishment, but for the first time in my life I understand how somebody can be driven to do something that lacks integrity out of desperation.
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>To see the horrible things that are happening to the people I love the most in my life as a result of this coward is killing me.
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>Life isn't fair.