>>>>What is your objective in being so constantly aggressive? I would think having a daughter would take some of the edge off you.
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>>>>Mike, I'll ALWAYS have an edge. :)
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>>>>I'm asking a question that many would surely like to ask. Why you always let everyone know when you've had a bender. I truly don't get it.
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>>>>If anything, having K2 makes me even MORE curious why anyone with children (or anyone period) would wax lyrically about partaking of the ale.
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>>>My girls are practically grown. Maybe that's what going on in my head that I can't quite get. Allie is 19 and ready to move out. Emily is the star of her high school, a 4.5 GPA and going to be the captain of the volleyball team. There is going to be a huger emptiness coming than I feel now.
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>>>I know it tires all of you out listening to me. You're just my lifeline, a substitute for real life. It's the best I have.
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>>>Messing up in Baton Rouge damaged me. That was my chance to get back on track. They are very selective so it was a lucky break for me. I just messed it up. BTW, anyone looking for a good gig is encouraged to go there. They have an advanced system with heavy use of SQL Server.
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>>Apparently you can't fight this on your own. Can't you get outside help? Not just AA but perhaps help at another level?
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>The problem is that Mike HAS TO WANT TO CHANGE; currently he doesn't, so any intervention will result in the same thing, another drunken spree. Pleading for him to do so just feeds his ego that people care and want to see good things for him. The sad commentary is (having lived through this myself with a drunken mother after my father was killed) is that he is destroying his daughter's lives. They will be scarred forever by his current actions. I have zero tolerance, zero patience, and zero sympathy for drunks.
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>The scars happen whether or not you want them too. We were 5 kids, 3 boys, 2 girls... both girls turned out to be prostitutes and drunks. 2 of the 3 boys are alcoholics and one drank himself into a nursing home requiring 24 hour care. I'm the only one who is not an alcoholic (at least I don't think so). I drink beer a couple of times a week, but can stop at any time. My kids haven't had to live with that extra burden on a drunken father.

Sad story John. We react differently to Mike's problem based on our past experiences. I never had to deal with members of my family having that problem. Perhaps your approach is better.

What do you think happened in order for you to be the only member of your family that didn't get on the wrong track?