What I'm asking is - what do I have to do so I don't go through this any more??

Kevin, I don't have the answer that you're looking for, but let me give some food for thought...

First, there are pre-reqs for just about every piece of software, even VFP.

Second, John Ryan mentioned QuickBooks somewhere in this thread - even QB has installation issues on certain computers. There are no guarantees.

Third, MS publishes pre-reqs for their products, but they don't cover every single possible detail. I go through install issues from time to time - sometimes I can google and hone in on the answer in a matter of minutes, and sometimes it takes longer.

Last month I had over a dozen installation issues in trying to create a VM for the latest CTPs of SharePoint and SQL Server and VS. Yes, those were CTPs, but still it was a matter of research and some trial and error. There usually "is" an answer and a path, though sometimes it does feel like a maze. So I feel your pain.

Fourth, it doesn't surprise me when someone runs into an install issue on "older" software with newer machines (or newest software on older machines). Maybe I've developed so much of a "solve it and move on" mindset from doing so many installs, that I don't let these get to me....segue to my final point.

Lastly...I debated saying this...this is not meant as a personal attack, but a suggestion. You do seem to react pretty quickly when you run into a technical issue. It helps to stay calm. In my case, if I start getting pissed off when something doesn't work, I tend to lose focus. I sense you (and about a million other people) may be the same way. When things don't install correctly but are "supposed to", there's a good chance there is a resolution....so focus on that, and try to avoid getting worked up. I know, easier said than done.