Jim:

Using the AfterRowColChange, is about the same of the ActiveColumn problem, that method only gives you the nColIndex which is numeric, and if the user changed the column order your'e back to the same old problem.
What I did is: I programmed the keypress of the textboxes in every column and did:

myform.mygrid.setfocus()
keyboard '.'

the keyboard method had these code lines:
if nKeyCode=46
thisform.oColumn=this.parent
endif