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>I think it is possible for military personnel to be openly gay and yet have regulation of what is proper behavior. No gay man in his right mind is going to ogle his straight friends in the shower. that is as inappropriate as a man in an office talking to a female co-worker while staring at her breasts. There are already rules of conduct regarding male and female soldiers and what is appropriate (albeit there are surely still cultural barriers to the policies being implemented ideally)
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>Unwanted sexual advances are bad for unit cohesion under any circumstances. Maybe straight men can be further sensitized to the problem by seeing themselves as being potentially recipients of unwanted attention.
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>Any man who has ever spent a lot of time in athletics or in a gym (or the military) has already showered with a *lot* of gay men. Behavior has kept that from usually being a problem. If just the knowledge that someone is gay makes sharing a lack of privacy with them a problem - the soldier has to get over it, just has he has to get over the lack of privacy around straight men. No one has to put up with sexual harassment but everyone needs perspective and a sense of humor.
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>It will take training, time and leadership and there are going to be some rocky spots and I would much rather see the change come about from military leadership rather than a civilian court decision, but it is coming. The first step is to completely cease *any* persecution based on declaration of sexual preference rather than on inappropriate behavior toward fellow soldiers. No?

Charles, again you write it perfectly. To imagine that homosexual men would join the military (and all that goes with that) in order to get some free looks in the shower, or whatever, is laughable. As you say, "It is behavior that is the problem, not orientation" and it applies to all areas of life, not just the military. The real issue is prejudice.