>But you still haven't answered the question - how does this behavior towards unbelievers fit with Those Capitalized Words Above? Are they reserved for members only?

First, religion is membership-centric. Biblical Christianity is not.

All mankind fall short of God's standards in relation to Those Capitalized Words Above. I mean, there is man's standards and there is God's. Man's standards are varied depending on your position, belief, condition, and culture. Add to that the laws of the land. For instance, God's standard about love and forgiveness is unconditional (love your enemy, forgive the unforgivable) as opposed to man's which is self-seeking at most (an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.) So how do I love just like how God loves? It take longer discussion to answer this as I've mentioned earlier.