>>>>Interesting does not mean correct. I respect both you and Tracy but you manufacture evidence all the time.
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>>>>Mike, she doesn't manufacture evidence...but I'll tell you what she does do....she's done more to try to encourage you to get your head on straight than anyone else here.
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>>>That is true, with the possible exception of Tamar. I know Tamar is not your cup of tea but let me tell you this. She has contacted me every Tuesday for the past three years. It's in her Outlook calendar, LOL. (Really). Through everything -- weddings, funerals, trips abroad, I hear from her every Tuesday, and most of the time it isn't the words I want to hear. She exhorts me and asks the questions that normally come from the 3 a.m. of the soul. "What are you going to do differently?" she keeps asking me. Tamar is a hardass. And I am very grateful she is my friend.
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>>You're a lucky man... I don't mean this meanly, but I wouldn't waste two seconds of my time on someone who knows his behavior is self and family destructive, but continues down the same old path with platitudes about changing but no meaningful action.
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>>I prefer to spend my valuable free time and effort on someone who is making REAL attempts to change their situation. I know, I've been there. My mother drank herself to death in 3 years after my father was killed in an auto accident. After two years of cajoling her to quit drinking, paying for therapy and intervention, I finally concluded that it was worth my effort or the time away from my young family at the time to worry about it. She died one year later, never knowing her grandchildren ... sad... and your headed down the same path.
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>We'll see about that. You don't know anything when you pontificate about what I am or am not doing.
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>You walked away from your own mother when she was in grief? You're a harder man than I am.

She wasn't in grief... she was bombed out of her mind 24/7..... she couldn't even stand by herself for weeks at a time.... The drinking started before his death and escalated thereafter. I didn't walk away from her, I just said if you want help, tell me, otherwise die in peace...


I hope you get help, but the pattern is "I'm okay.. I can handle this...", which is what you say all the time. Truth is you can't handle it by yourself.