>>Yeah, there ARE exceptions to anything and everything. Derrick Rose also had some older brothers loo, king out for him as I recall. I'm glad he has done so well. I think I've stated my case regarding the norm though. Most of the thousands of the homes I've visited while attempting to arrest people were occupied by a grandmother, a mother and several kids. It is a formula for disaster, in most cases.
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>But you're only seeing the problems. You have no idea what percent of the homes you haven't visited have the same make-up.
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>I agree that it's better for kids to be raised in a home with two loving parents, but that's not the reality for lots of kids. So we need to figure out as a society how we help the kids who don't have that.
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>Tamar

I'd be willing to bet more of the homes in the "inner city" fit the model I describe than fit the "Cosby Show" model. Sure, there will be some who not only survive, but succeed in the single parent situation, but to have the best chance, they need two nurturing parents, in a stable environment. Even then, it's a crapshoot, particularly when you consider all the external influences. I have to admit that I don't have an answer on how to fix the situation, particularly in the black community. The leaders in the black community, like 100 Black Men and such will have to make it happen. It must come from within. Anything I offer will have no effect.