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>>>>>No big deal. I was just checking in with a brief update, some of which is not news to you. I started a new full time job on Monday. So far, so good. I am hardly home during the work week so my prediction of being scarce on the UT is looking accurate. My father is dying. Maybe I should just keep my UT posts to Twitter dimensions and I'll be fine <g>.
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>>>>remember to put on your running shoes at least twice a week - especially at such times.
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>>>My dad's life came to a conclusion with shocking speed. He was diagnosed with cancer less than three Sundays ago, April 22, and died 10 days later. My relatives and I all seem to be in the same state. It happened so quickly we aren't all the way there to accepting that he is gone. We have gone back to our normal lives with the impact rolling over us like a slow tide. Several people have said to me that it may be years before you're completely through it.
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>>>The funeral and surrounding events were not as sad as I had imagined they would be. It was good to see my family (we are widely scattered) and old acquaintances. I also met some people I didn't know. Three of those who made the biggest impression on me were people who worked for him. I knew he had good jobs but didn't know about the personal impact. One of them, who had a pretty high position as warehouse manager, said he was an order selector when my father joined the company and owes more to him than anyone, even his own father. The other two were truck drivers. One of them is an ace in truck driver "rodeo" competitions. There are local contests, which bubble up to state and then national. This guy has won the Maine competition 8 times and the national competition twice. He said before my dad joined Hannaford the drivers were one step above dogcatcher. He opened his sport coat and showed me the gold buckle he won at one of the nationals. "I don't wear this very often," he said.
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>>>http://obituaries.bangordailynews.com/obituaries/bdnmaine/obituary.aspx?n=virgil-elroy-beane&pid=157453811
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>>Sorry for your loss Mike.
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>>My father died march 29th this year.
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>>Lifetime smoker finally did what WW2 (Coldstream Guards in Italy), major heart attack,a triple bypass and a near fatal car crash couldn't do.
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>>He wanted his ashes spread in the Severn estuary which we did. A filthy day , torrential rain, hail, thunder and lightning. Then as we got the boat out in the evening to take the ashes out to mid river the sun cracked through the clouds over the welsh hills, the sky cleared and there was a rainbow. Couldn't have done better in a film.
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>>As you say it will take a while to get over. I've just had my first parentless birthday, more unsettling than I expected..
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>Sorry to hear that, Nick. Best wishes. There aren't really a lot of good words to say, are there? We just get through it the best we can.

That's all you can do. It's all part of life.

My parents are both long gone but there are triggers that bring a lot back.

My mother died on Mothers Day in 1998. Tough to forget that one each year.

I think of my father each time I see someone get away with murder (perhaps that has something to do with my lack of tolerance).... Enough on that one.