>In this case I agree with you completely. She was asking for quite a lot. There was nothing mean spirited in your reply and in fact you gave her some good advice -- take it a step at a time as far as you can, and then if you are stuck on a tough point come ask. Also the importance of understanding the fundamentals first.
After spending all that time I decided to try something different than flexigrid. I believe it is not simple (if ever possible) to make it work the way I wanted.
If it's not broken, fix it until it is.
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