>(2) I think Tamar would not welcome me even if I showed up. I think I would be escorted out of the event, or that the event's focus would shift to a scene from some movie where one person faces the angry mob.


Then you don't know Tamar very well. I showed up a few times years ago, and she welcomed me politely, even though we had issues on the thread. Quit projecting you own misgivings on others.