>>>>>>>>>>Why IS it ok for men to tell women to 'Smile' all the time, yet rarely tell other men that? Is every man out there somehow the arbiter of women's attitudes?
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>>>>>>>>>FWIW, we also need to stop telling our sons that "big boys don't cry." Same problem, actually.
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>>>>>>>>I think you're stuck in a bit of a time-warp. "Big boys" are crying all over the place.
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>>>>>>>>Athletes, soldiers, politicians, news anchors, Darth Vader...
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>>>>>>>>This society has been telling little boys that it's ok to cry for a couple decades and we're seeing the results. Grown men are publicly blubbering like babies.
>>>>>>>>http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-shameless-male-crying-displays.html
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>>>>>>>You still hear it. I was at the ballgame the other week. A guy behind us was there with his 3-year-old, who was behaving like a 3-year-old. Someone behind them leaned over and told him "big boys don't cry." Had it been a kid in my group, I would have immediately responded both to the kid and the adult. Since it wasn't, with difficulty, I bit my tongue.
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>>>>>>I bet with extreme difficulty ;-)
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>>>>>>You are my favorite feminist with the possible exception of my daughters. And that isn't a fair comparison. They grew up in a time when equal rights went without saying. They truly don't get it that women before their time didn't have it the same way. In their world girls have the same rights, if not more.
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>>>>>Yep. I can astonish some of the young people I know by telling them that when I was growing up, the want ads listed jobs for women and jobs for men separately.
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>>>>True. My mom was a nurse and that was considered an excellent career for a woman back then.
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>>>>There od is something seriously wrong with my health. Not to be melodratic but I think I'm dying.
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>>>If that wasn't just melodrama, hope you went to a doc or an ER. Let us know what you learned.
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>>I have diabetes type 2 and prostate cancer. One of my few smiles in recent days was when Emily responded to my comment on Skype that prostate cancer is generally a dilemma limited to men. She said I think only men have prostates. Little wiseass. That little engineer is going to go far.
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>Sorry to hear about the prostate cancer. Obviously, you know the specifics of your case and I don't. From what I hear, though, men are far more likely to die _with_ prostate cancer than _of_ prostate cancer. It appears that for most men, the correct response to the diagnosis is to watch and do nothing. You are, I think, younger than most at diagnosis, so that may change the recommendation. But my understanding is that, in general, a prostate cancer diagnosis is not a death sentence.
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>IAC, pay attention to what your docs have to say and, if it doesn't sound right, get a second opinion.
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I have respect for doctors. They know more about it than I do.

I don't think watching and doing nothing is the correct response. No, it probably won't kill you but there are quality of life issues, mainly being back and forth to the bathroom all night. The medication has some nasty side effects but it does solve the problem.

My understanding is enlarged prostate onset begins at around age 45. I'm 57 so can't claim to be too young. 50% of men aged 60 have it.