That's not possible. Bullies are, by definition, not good leaders. Bullies are those who pick on people weaker than themselves to build themselves up. I thought about this a good bit. I understand where you are coming from, but I also don't discount Bill F's point.
"Sometimes" a by-product of certain levels of bullying makes someone better - though it's not the intent of the person doing the bullying.
If I had to point to where I got bullied the most - it was my first two years playing little league baseball at ages 10 and 11. I grew up in Mechanicsburg, which had a pretty serious baseball effort at the time. I did pretty well during practice, but in games I was bad. Kids my age and a year or two older really busted on me. I wasn't coming home with a bloody nose every day, but I was shoved around and punched in the body and frequently made fun of and sometimes humiliated. (I think the fact that I had good grades and was singled out by teachers might have triggers some of the bullying).
I can remember being afraid of the kids who picked on me (and they did it ALL YEAR ROUND), and even telling my parents I was going to quit baseball.
Well in the winter of 1977 I did two things. Begged my parents for a basic weight set, and started lifted weights. Second, I was outside with a friend of mine in the dead of winter, practicing every baseball drill two 12 year olds could think of, even when it was snow and ice. And basically taught myself how to pitch.
I'll skip to the end - that next baseball season I made the All-Star team, had a 4-2 record as a pitcher with a low ERA, and hit over .400. The guys who picked on me suddenly respected me. They also gave me signs that they accepted me socially, but I rejected most of them. I hadn't forgotten what they'd done to me.
Granted, not every kid is in a position to be able to "fight back". If I ever learned that my kid engaged in any kind of bullying, she'd be in major hot water with me. BUT - I also think Bill has a point that sometimes bullying winds up lighting a fire in some people. (But sadly, also shuts down other people further).
