>>But you still need someone or something to give you a chance. I imagine your brother got a lot of therapy, both for the CP and the dyslexia. Now imagine that he'd been born with the same disabilities to a poor 16-year-old girl in an inner city. What are the odds he would have gotten all the care he needed to become successful?
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>Remember the song "Imagine?" Well, instead of "imagine your brother got a lot of therapy, etc.". Well, imagine something different. Imagine a father who became so frustrated over his 2nd son's issues (after his first son had no physical issues) that he regularly beat his 2nd son (punching him in the face, in the kidneys, choking him, slapping him) to try to discipline him , refused to pay for certain medications and treatments, and berated his wife for trying to protect her son. I normally don't like revealing this kind of personal history online, but one of the biggest conflicts I've ever had to reconcile is a father who gave me a strong work ethic, but also horrible memories of watching physical abuse.
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>Believe me, he didn't get the kind of attention he needed. But almost miraculously he turned it around.

First, I'm sorry about your father. That must have been terribly difficult. I've also dealt with trying to reconcile my good experiences with someone close to me with other things I know about the person's behavior, and it's an ongoing challenge.

As for your brother, he didn't have an IEP? Didn't get special accommodation in school? If not, then his accomplishments are even more impressive.

Tamar