>>My Jewish grandmother had an affair with a Black man. They had a son. Her family forbade her from keeping the child. She abandoned my father and when he found her years later she introduced him as a friend of the family. Toxic femininity. There are many cases that are not reported, because stupid society things all women are Lady Godiva.
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>Lot of pain showing there, too. Did she literally abandon your father (leave him somewhere without care) or did she give him up for adoption?

That's not the pain - to this day, as a result of the shotgun incident, I startle very hard. It will cause a heart attack, and I'll be happy to get off this stupid planet. She dumped him with some relative and he was bounced around. This was in St. Vincent and the Grenadines, where much of my family lives.

Star Trek TOS taught me to help people, so that's what I like to do, help people by applying technology, but can't fix stupid. My other mentors besides Drew, were Dr. Stephan Vas and his wife Magda. One head of microbiology and the other head of Hematology. Both urged me into medicine. They fled the Nazis. Humanity has little to be proud of.

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>Do you have any idea whether his life would have been better if she'd kept him and, likely, been cut off by her family? Presumably, based on my sense of your age, we're talking pre-WWII. I'm thinking a Jewish single woman with a Black child would not have been welcome in an awful lot of places. (No idea whether their relationship was actually illegal in Canada, at that time, but it would have been in many US states, and had it been exposed, would likely have led to death for your grandfather.)
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>Her unwillingness to acknowledge him later certainly was much less forgivable, though my understanding is that it's true for lots of women who had illegitimate babies, even without the racial question.

Too bad. Excuses for toxic femininity are as shallow as excuses for toxic masculinity.