Jason,
Actually I would use a parameterized view that selects rows based on norderid.

Something like this:
SELECT * FROM ordersdetail WHERE ordersdetail.norderid = ?ordersmater.norderid

Then requery the view to refresh it.

>My problem is I can't figure out how to put the view into my form and have it update/gel/mesh with the orders form (which is the parent)