>I'm not familiar with these functions, where do
>they get called?

Just after you actually delete the record in the table underlying the grid, I guess it is a delete button click event.

* your code
select (table)
delete
* end of your code
Thisform.refresh()

>I'm not using views at this time, they are tables.

I've never done the following, but I think it will work:
(assuming that you connected the table in the recordsource property as an alias to the grid)

Thisform.(grid).recourdsource= (your alias)

This will refresh the data connected to your grid. Put this just before the Thisform.refresh() statement.

Hope it helps.

Marc