>well, i heard that in VB the developer can alter the color of the commandbuttons. i understand this is possible because each VB object has some kind of a window handle or window address attached to it and vfp doesn't. i wish it was same for vfp.

Yes, you can do this in VB. It doesn't mean you should do it. IMO, there needs to be a really good reason for violating Windows UI guidelines.