Yeah, it has been that way for as long as I can remember. Grids with relations are difficult to manage, but it is a very powerful feature escpecially in a client server setup where you want to do as much processing on client as you can to save round trips to the server.

If your working with VFP data you might try using Views and requery the child view on the parent primary key when you want to refresh the child view.

As for the looks ugly problem, try setting lockscreen = .t. just before you perform an operation then set lockscreen = .f. when your done.

Charlie