John,
> If I build a component for my user object and place it in my server, when i load this object using createobjectex(), where will the process being processed (resources)?
CREATEOBJECTEX() is used for running a COM object on another computer via DCOM. It will run on the computer that you specify in the CREATEOBJECTEX parameters, assuming that it has been registered on that remote computer. This works by specifying the CLSID and COMPUTER, or alternatively by registering the COM server also on the client computer with CLIREG32 and just specifying the PROGID in the CREATEOBJECTEX call.
In either case, the program runs on the remote computer on which it is installed and registered for DCOM.