John,

>Doug
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>I don't know what to say.

An honest answer like this works. <g>

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>I have only just begun my family- a daughter, 5 months old. People used to tell me you can't understand about kids till you have them. They were right. I am so sorry about your son.

Thanks. You never really get past it but if you are willing you can learn some exceedingly precious lessons. As I mentioned, I think and feel as though I have been priviledged to learn these. Don't misunderstand... Not fun at all but valuable.

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>Being a father has changed me. Suddenly I see that things that I thought mattered a heap, don't really matter so much. You know what? I don't think ADO really matters so much.

Exactly! No one really cares if JVP is right or wrong. Or if I am right or wrong. IMO it is such a non-issue that it hardly merits mention.

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>I suppose I risk being laughed at from some quarters, posting like this. But I would say that life is indeed precious, and it speeds away from us fast enough without our wasting time arguing with each other about things that did not exist 2 years ago and will be gone again in another 2 years.

Let them laugh. Anyone who would do that is dead, while yet alive. Hardly more than walking corpses, waiting for their body to catch up with their spirit and soul.

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>I've got my wife with daughter and nanny (a veritable camel train!) with me this time, pardon my ignorance but I'm not sure where LA is in relation to Utah, but I fly from London to LA en route to New Zealand on 19 September, hit LA 20 September, perhaps we could catch up for a drink? Or maybe I'll stop for Devcon after all.

We're around 550 miles as the proverbial crow flies from LA. While I don't really drink all that much, if had the opportunity to be there I'd be more than delighted to take you up on your offer. Sadly, I would think that will not be the case. I will also be delighted to take a rain check. <g>

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>Regards
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>JR

Best,

DD