>Sure, I understand completely. I've had the opportunity over the years to become at least marginally familiar with Jewish holy days and traditional responses. As I've mentioned before I'd very much some day like to be asked to participate in the Sader. (correct name??) The whole symbology, where there are three wafer with the middle one being broken is just tremendous to me. However, I would never want to so participate as to make my hosts feel awkward...

"Seder" is the usual transliteration, but it's pronounced "SAY-dur". It actually is a Hebrew word meaning "order" and refers to the fact that things are done in a particular order during the service.

I don't think I've ever heard anyone refer to matzah as a wafer before. <g> The middle is broken fairly early on, and then the piece that's removed is set aside as the "dessert" (generally, dessert is served, but the Afikoman, as that piece of matzah is known is the last thing you're supposed to eat that night).

As for attending a Seder, I'll bet you could find one at a synagogue or Hillel House in your area if you really want to. Generally, most conservative or reform Jews have no problems having non-Jews there. (In my family, it's pretty common.) I think the Orthodox have a problem with it, but I'm not sure.

Tamar