Kevin,

>Such a book may not exist out there, but if anyone had to recommend one or two titles out there that had the best overall coverage of developing a Web-based SQL server app that also included coverage of the middle-tier, COM components, and front-end publishing using ASP (the proverbial 'soup to nuts'), what would it be?

I don't think such a book exists yet that is specific to VFP. Hopefully, someone will write it soon.

You might find the white papers and tutorials about COM Codebook to be instructive in terms of overall architectural design decisions. That's probably about the best match right now for the topics you described.
http://www.comcodebook.com/